How to integrate, build and evolve your work place rather than unconsciously destroy and cast out. – Vol 2/2
By Mina Ayoub, Communications Executive at EFG Hermes.
How to deal with it?
There are various ways to deal with this dilemma. The first step is identifying the problem and the form in which the toxicity manifests. In cases related to public bullying, the solution lies in the hands of all parties. Individuals who experience a toxic behavior should always have the courage to speak up, but the wisdom to know how and when. But as mentioned earlier, in many cases victims are not likely to speak up which is why it is up to their colleagues to intervene when they see something improper.
Employees should always be on the lookout and be able to identify the issues and intervene in a healthy but effective way. Lending a supporting shoulder goes a long way. Of course, management should always be on the lookout for signs of toxicity and take immediate action.
It would be a good idea to talk to your manager about how you feel at work, or even approach the Human Resources Department since they take initiatives such as providing awareness on the matter, providing staff members with effective leadership trainings, and educating staff members on the importance of maintaining healthy work relationships that foster empathy and compassion , . Companies can also start to implement a “safe area” policy where employees can speak up without the fear of internal politics. One such example of this initiative lies here at EFG Hermes, with the launch of ‘Voice It’ at the beginning of 2016. ‘Voice It’ is a platform that offers employees the free opportunity to give feedback and complaints discretely and anonymously. At the end of the day, the solution lies in the hands of the people and as the saying goes, power to the people.
5 Tips on how not to be toxic:
- Practice being more aware towards your actions and where they are coming from. Remember that those you meet at work have nothing to do with what might be going on in your personal life and that everyone is fighting a battle of their own. Carrying your baggage everywhere will eventually weigh you down.
- Speak up whether to defend yourself or others. This does not imply reacting negatively as you are just as accountable for your reactions as much as other people’s actions, find the courage to do what is right by you. Some people will take longer to realize this, which is why it is up to all of us to be there for them and not fall prey to the bystander effect.
- Rather than attempting to criticize others, focus on developing yourself and evolving through hard work and integrity. It is easy to judge others and push them down, however it is healthier and more rewarding to focus on yourself, what you can improve and how you can be a positive change to those around you.
- Keep your emotions in check and do not let them get the better of you in a discussion. We are human beings at the end of the day and emotions are a part of our physical and mental construct. The concept is not to be void of emotions, but to manage them and not let them take over our actions resulting in possibly regrettable behavior. Remember to always breathe, be respectful and wise with your choice of words regardless of the situation. Let your actions speak for themselves.
- Encourage an open environment that is inclusive and accepting to people of diverse backgrounds. Providing employees with the security to be who they are without fear of prejudice. It goes without saying that this should be done professionally, maintaining proper protocol.
- Find a positive outlet. Stress is a natural byproduct of very busy, fast paced and commitment packed lives so always remember to include an activity in your daily routine that helps you decompress. Offloading negative energy helps you maintain peace of mind.